LOVING PARENTS DON'T ALWAYS SAY YES
KEEPING THE KIDS OFF THE HIGHWAY, OFF DRUGS AND BRINGING THEM HOME FROM THE BUSH WAR
by Rachel Steffes-MacKenzie
I assume you have already heard about the delusional band of abusive and neglectful parents who are slithering their way down to the Anti-Christ's lair in Crawford, Texas to harass Gold Star Mom, Cindy Sheehan? No, that is not a typographical error, no misprint. I wrote the words abusive and neglectful and I make no apologies. I stand by them because they were the words I had intended to use.
As far as I am concerned, those individuals who did not make an attempt to discourage their children from joining the military after this travesty of a "leader" was appointed as president were just plain neglectful. Those individuals who are either too stupid or too cruel to not want an end to the futile blood bath in Iraq are advocating a policy which puts their children and other parents' children in harm's way--and if that doesn't qualify as abusive then I don't know what does. (On a side note, you really don't want to know what I think of the proverbial psychopaths who would actively encourage their children to join the military now that the Bush War has turned sour the way we had said it would all along.)
Be honest. Wouldn't you like to make your own bumper sticker that reads: "We love the troops so much that we want to bring them home right now?" Wouldn't you like to vomit when you hear psychotic nonsense about how the troops knew what they were getting into because they volunteered? Wouldn't you just love to scream back that most Americans, including volunteer soldiers, trusted their President to actually avoid unnecessary wars as opposed to blundering into them? Aren't you getting just a little sick and tired of empty, irrelevant rhetoric about how we'll hurt the troops' moral if we don't support their Bush-given right to commit suicide? Don't you feel just a little nauseated when you hear right wing lunacy about our soldiers efforts being for nothing if we don't leave them in a dangerous war zone until the Bush reime's misbegotten policies finally erupt in an Iraqi Civil War?
Yeah. I'm getting sick and tired of their excuses too.
I'm sorry, but there's a lot more to parenting that providing food, clothing, and shelter. Parents are also required to provide a moral compass--something the administration in Washington has clearly been lacking despite all its shallow double talk about family values. Sometimes a parent needs to sit down with a child and actually warn that child about the forces in society which can do that child harm. Having done so, the parent then has a moral obligation to actively dissuade the child from engaging in harmful activities. And on those occasions when the child refuses to listen or obey, the parent has a moral obligation to intervene. And if the parents refuse to intervene then the Powers That Be have a duty to step in and either correct the family dysfunction or terminate the parental rights.
If six-year-old Johnny is found playing on a busy highway, Mommy and Daddy need to get off their asses and drag him--kicking and screaming if necessary--back into the yard or house. If thirteen-year-old Jimmy is doing drugs, Mommy and Daddy have an obligation to get Jimmy into a drug treatment program. And if 24-year-old Tommy doesn't understand the fact that his support of a self-destructive, republican war of choice is both, putting him in the way of harm and causing untold grief and anxiety to his loved ones at home, then Mom and Dad have a moral obligation to speak out against the policy which is putting their sons life in jeopardy; and it doesn't matter if Tommy approves or not. No child, regardless of age, wants to be disciplined but sometimes it is necessary for the general well being of the child. Whether he or she appreciates or approves is quite frankly, irrelevant. Better a resentful child who will eventually out grow his or her resentment than a dead child with whom you can never rebuild a relationship. Or to be succinct, sometimes love requires us to take actions which the child may or may not appreciate at the time that the actions are taken, but that should not stop us from taking them.
And if the lucky individuals who have been blessed with children do not understand this; if they don't even try to dissuade their children from joining this wretched crusade; if they don't make an effort to bring their children home right away with no questions asked, then they do not deserve the title of parent unless it is preceded by the aptly descriptive terms of neglectful and abusive.